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In My Experience

I love this quote below from Tami Simon – founder of “Sounds True” publishing, amongst other endeavors.

It’s amazing how much intersection there is in the world of “Gurus” – be they gurus of the internet marketing kind, or gurus of the type who want to tell us the rules of the cosmos or other certainties that are only a whispered word away.

The more you bump up against the folks who have all the answers, the more you realize you’ve been asking the wrong questions. (and of the wrong people)

The only thing I really have to offer anyone reading my words is my experience.

What I’ve learned along the way.

Packaged properly and articulated with honestly, I think that experience is worth quite a lot, because I’ve done a lot, and tried a lot, and learned a lot worth knowing along the way.

But, it’s only my experience.

And yours may vary.

There is a freedom and a freshness and an honest humility that emanates from just saying what you’ve seen and felt and touched and tasted along the way.

The map is rarely the territory, and for me at least, there is nothing more grating than those who want you to believe they’ve got both figured out, simply because they have a philosophy that sounds good, looks smart and butters the right buttons on the pixel, or page.

So when I heard these words, Tami Simon’s quote below – in the midst of a long midnight run… another Podcast where she was being interviewed……the host made reference to having read this post on the show, I made a note to look it up when I got home.

This idea resonates with me so deeply now, both as a reminder to my own bloviating and self important self – to stick to my EXPERIENCE, and not the way I think things should be……but, more importantly, to the cacaphony of voices and ideas and opinions I’m inundated with on a daily basis by folks who have it all figured out…even though they almost always contradict each other, and quite often, themselves as well.

As a long time meditation practitioner, I have had all sorts of kalaideiscopic, crazy, cool, amazing insights and epiphanies about myself,  & the wild, weird, wacky and wonderful world around us all.

And yet, I know, that there is nothing one can truly know about the cosmos, or the nature of life, or death – or any of the burning big questions that are answered while I surf the insides of my own awareness.

It’s tempting to consider.

But it’s only my experience.

Well worth considering if you’re seeking – or offering – advice – on the way things really are, because they rarely are as simple or straightforward as they seem.

Check out the full post at the link below – and some of Sounds True’s great collection of inspiring interviews as well.

I have now hosted over 100 episodes of Insights at the Edge, a free podcast series in which I interview Sounds True authors about their life and work. What I have found is that the part of the conversation that always interests me the most is when people talk about their own direct experience–their experience with difficult times, their “illumination” experience, their experience with intimate relationships (the good, the bad, the ugly). These are the moments when the conversation becomes the most real for me. I feel like saying to my guests, “Please don’t tell me what you think sounds like wonderful philosophy, tell me what you have seen with your own eyes, tell me what has surprised you, tell me what has disappointed you, tell me what has helped you feel most alive and free.”

How Good Writers Write

The writing rituals of the rich, famous and ferociously focused.

Well worth checking out for inspiration if you find yourself staring at a blank screen with one perpetually pulsating pixel like me.

Haruki Murakami: “The repetition itself becomes the important thing.”

In a 2004 interview, Murakami discussed his physical and mental habits…

When I’m in writing mode for a novel, I get up at four a.m. and work for five to six hours. In the afternoon, I run for ten kilometers or swim for fifteen hundred meters (or do both), then I read a bit and listen to some music. I go to bed at nine p.m.

I keep to this routine every day without variation. The repetition itself becomes the important thing; it’s a form of mesmerism. I mesmerize myself to reach a deeper state of mind.

But to hold to such repetition for so long — six months to a year — requires a good amount of mental and physical strength. In that sense, writing a long novel is like survival training. Physical strength is as necessary as artistic sensitivity.

Ernest Hemingway: “I write every morning.”

In an interview with George Plimpton, Hemingway revealed his daily routine…

When I am working on a book or a story I write every morning as soon after first light as possible. There is no one to disturb you and it is cool or cold and you come to your work and warm as you write. You read what you have written and, as you always stop when you know what is going to happen next, you go on from there.

Why Starting a Business Will Make You Happy

Want the real secret to happiness?  Start a business.  (especially if you are a woman 🙂 

Interesting research on some of what makes us truly happy, healthy and fulfilled continuously shows that having a sense of passion and purpose in our work…especially if we work for ourselves, is the key to life satisfaction.

Here is a cool study on the the corelation between being an entrepreneur and happiness that happens to also reveal that while all of us get a lot more life satisfaction out of having our own businesses……women often report far higher happiness quotients than men when it comes to being self employed.

My own experience is that having a really compelling story – a reason why – a sense of passion and purpose and personal power that is wrapped up in story of what compels us to create or contribute or connect with our communities is the best driver for feeling fulfilled through our work.

(It can also be really effective to have a really compelling story about what life looks like when you DON’T do what you are truly called to do – how much smaller is your own canvass of contribution – of connection and who else suffers when you choose a smaller story than the one you know burns inside of you.  For me – in some sense, this is a much more compelling reason to do what I love…and a much better motivator when I feel like doing nothing as well – allowing myself to imagine I’m being used in the service of others, and that quitting early is not an option that affects only me)

There is truly nothing more rewarding than doing work that you love and using the canvas of your own concsiousness, and creativity, to help others do what they love in a much higher way as well.

Check out the full article following the short exceprt below.  And I’m planning on doing a whole bunch of audio recordings this month on the authority site and online agency style models for service oriented professionals – (some myself – and others with clients) if you’d like to get these sent to you via email (they may or may not be posted here on this blog) drop me a note and I’ll forward the download links to you as they go live.


What does a woman really want? That question has supposedly bedeviled men throughout the ages. A new study provides the answer: Her own business.

That’s one conclusion that could be drawn from the 2013 Global Entrepreneurship Monitor U.S. Report, issued today by Babson College and Baruch College. The report contained a number of insights about women business owners.

Most striking: Established women business owners ranked their happiness more than twice as high as non-entrepreneurs and non-business owners. In the chart below, which is taken from the report, TEA stands for total entrepreneurship activity.





I’m not a big fan of new year’s resolutions.

But, I am a big fan of convincing myself I’m going to do things differently in the future, than I have in the past.

Which, I guess, you could argue are new year’s resolutions.

And one of the big reason’s I love Mondays, too.

I want to do more work that I love….with people I like, and less that I don’t with both.

(because everyone knows the best time to change your life for the better are Monday’s.  Any other day is like swimming upstream on the transformational totem pole of doomed to disappoint)

Here are a few of the things I want to do more of in 2015.

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Today is the first day of the rest of my life. 

This breath, the next breath, is the first breath of the rest of my life.

This moment, and this moment, are every moment, for the rest of my life.

This truth, and only this truth, i will hold close and embrace, lest I forget yet again.

I will live them well.

The Best Content Marketing Strategy You Aren’t Using (But Really Ought to Start)

I have this perpetually procrastinated blog post always quasi prepared, loosely titled – “What to do when Google hates You”.

I just can’t really come up with the time to flesh the whole idea out in it’s entirety, so it never gets posted, which is a shame…..because one of the things I do know for sure is that Google does in fact hate me.

I don’t think it’s a personal hate per se….because I’m a pretty good guy deep down where it matters most.  But on the surface, and that’s really where Google tends to look, I’m easy to dislike.

A little bit of quick background: Read More »

Million Dollar Authority Site Ideas

Actually…this is more like a 47 million dollar (and counting) authority site idea that picks up where AIRBNB leaves off 🙂

There have been so many different unique, eclectic and hyper specific style authority sites in the last few months that have made national news….all using the basic “directory” style model we’ve covered here ad nauseum over the last year or two.  (and that many of you I know are now using to build your own brands as well)

The good news is, not only are there an absolute unending amount of ideas in this space, the tools, templates and technologies that are available, even on a bootstrap budget, is light years better than it was just a short year or two as well.

The truth is, you can build a highly functioning, beautifully designed web directory in just about any niche, market or industry under the sun…..from hyper local community sites to national niche directories, and just about anything in between…complete with full marketplace functionality, booking integration (so that the professional profiles or service professionals can actually ACCEPT clients directly from YOUR site) and do all sorts of other cool and creative things……and launch it all for under $300 bucks to boot. Read More »